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Let's Stop Spreading the Disease
#78950 - 12/04/03 01:47 AM
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I've read in a few post where people said that if a person doesn't ask about your status there is no need to tell them. On top of that, if they don't ask for a condom don't worry about. Some men even lie about their status for a quick roll in the hay.
This needs to be STOPPED!!! Not to attack anyone's way of life, but HIV is a disease that a lot of people can not afford. It is not only a dangerous disease but an EXPENSIVE one. As a HIV + male, and counselor, I have seen TOO many young kids, poor people, uneducated, and even the elderly, who in this day, are still grossly uninformed about the disease. Everyone who is POZ should make sure the disease stops with them. Love, sex, and relationships are possible, but a condom isn't your enemy. HIV infections are on the rise. This isn't a good sign. With Bi-sexuality more and more popular, married men who play with other men, and HOMO THUGS on the DL (Down Low), this disease is leapfrogging from race, gender to sexual preference, to a dangerous degree.
We must remember that sex is about power. There are some who take and others who give it up. Being Poz, you hold a certain power, wield it carefully. While Gay Men were able to rise up against this disease and find success in fighting it, other minority groups, young men and women have not been so lucky.
I know it is difficult to do, but a responsibility must be taken. Condoms break, mistakes happen. Don't decide someone's fate for them. let them decide for themselves. I know the high road seems unreachable at times but we must all strive for it. Let's stop the infections, then find a cure.
That's just my two cents.
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Sounds like good advice to me!
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the gay world is a evil world they will infect you on purpose
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It's not that the gay world is so evil and corrupt; it's that people who make these types of comments are uneducated and closed minded. There are a lot of loving decent gay people in the world; the problem lies with small minded people that find it so easy to point the finger at others when they should be pointing it at themselves.
If one feels this way maybe they should take a good look at their our lives. They say our faults irritate us most when we see them in others.
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IT IS PRECISALY BECAUSE THESE COMMENTS MADE BY PSEUDO EDUCATORS, PEOPLE WHO TRY TO CLEAN HIS GUILTYNESS PROPOSING SOMETHING OTHER PEOPLE USES TO ATTACK GAY PEOPLE, I INVITE YOU (POSITIVE) GUYS TO PROTECT YOURSELF NOT BECAUSE YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS HEALTH BUT BECAUSE LIFE WITH HIV/AIDS IS HARD AND HARDER WITH HIV+OTHER STD's, LOVE YOURSELF, PROTECT YOURSELF, THERE ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE PEOPLE THAT DO NOT CARE ABOUT THEIR OWN HEALTH, BUT WE, THE POZ GUYS ARE NOT THE POLICEMANS OF OTHER'S HEALTH. EMPOWER YOURSELF.
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takes 2 to tango ??????? only takes one to infect others
I fear you stay away!
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How is it possible that there's people who thinks that POZ people is responsible of somebdy else's butt? all people should be accountable of their own behavior, victimizing POZ people would add more stigma to people segregated by ignorant people who has a job because the pain of others, shame on you!!!!!
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stop spreading this disease around if you have HIV do not infect other people PERIOD.
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dcguy511
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Replying to the entire thread, we as POZ guys have the moral responsibility to not infect someone else. Even with all of the advances in treatment, this is not a cake walk. I am dealing with this disease, learning to accept myself and be kinder to myself, but not a day goes by that I wish I did not have it. I am absolutely shocked that someone who is POZ would excuse himself from this responsibility. Someone said it takes two to tango, but one to infect. how true. And we are that one. I'm not responsible for someone else, but I am responsible for my semen.
DCGuy511
Washington, DC
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As a poz man, I agree that just because my partner doesn't ask about my status that there is no need for me to tell them of mine BEFORE having sex -- a courtesy most HIV+ people weren't afforded. And it's truly sad there are people who intentionally lie about being negative when asked by their partner. But it is equally astonishing how many sexually active adults who have never been tested for HIV or had their last test come back negative simply disclaim any responsibility for their sexual behavior and shift blame to the people who know they have been exposed to HIV for "not spreading it." As a POZ person, I'm more than willing to "make sure the disease stops with me" but only ask that the same level of commitment be adopted by people who don't bother getting tested and just assume they are HIV-negative, or those who have been fortunate enough not the be exposed, and where's that level of commitment from our government who don't even respect gays enough to knowingly let them serve in the military and continue to cut funding for sex education, from straights who feel gays aren't worthy of the right to marry but have sex with same-sex partners on the "down-low", and where's the commitment from parents who refuse to allow condems to be made available to kids in school even when they account a large portion of new infections, and why isn't the media asked to STOP HIV by helping to educate minority, poor, and under-eduated communities (shouldn't there be at least as many HIV PSAs as Viagra and Levitra ads?) And if condom use by gay men is so critical to stopping HIV, shouldn't makers of condoms commit to marketing their product to gays more than they do?
Why is an HIV-negative people who doesn't ask for a condom or who has unprotected sex with a partner they don't know is HIV-positive any less responsible for the spread of HIV than is an HIV-positive person who is expected to voluntarily disclose their status and always use condoms for the safety of themselves and others.
HIV-negative people have as much of a responsibility for not contracting HIV by risking exposure as HIV-positive people have for not exposing others.
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I'm saddend, but not surprised at the oppinions of those who think it's ok to do whatever they want, leaving others to defend themselves against HIV. While all people should take the responsability for their own lives by being informed and taking precautions, those who know they are infected should care enough about those with whom they share sexual experiances to keep them safe. And if they are so selfish maybe they should realize that they temselves can still become infected with other strains of HIV. It's like getting shot by a bullet and then thinking that no other bullet can harm you. Get real, guys! If you're not going to play safe for the benifit of others, then play safe for yourselves. That means gay guys and straight guys. Just because the person you're screwing has a pussy instead of a dick doesn't mean you or the female are not at risk of getting HIV. I've heard it over and over in HIV support groups,"I didn't know I could get it. I'm straight!" Well, too late for that realization... Wake up.
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[quote]I'm saddend, but not surprised at the oppinions of those who think it's ok to do whatever they want, leaving others to defend themselves against HIV. While all people should take the responsability for their own lives by being informed and taking precautions, those who know they are infected should care enough about those with whom they share sexual experiances to keep them safe. And if they are so selfish maybe they should realize that they temselves can still become infected with other strains of HIV. It's like getting shot by a bullet and then thinking that no other bullet can harm you. Get real, guys! If you're not going to play safe for the benifit of others, then play safe for yourselves. That means gay guys and straight guys. Just because the person you're screwing has a pussy instead of a dick doesn't mean you or the female are not at risk of getting HIV. I've heard it over and over in HIV support groups,"I didn't know I could get it. I'm straight!" Well, too late for that realization... Wake up. [/quote] right on buddy jrm
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I am tired of people blaming us who know we are HIV+ being irresponsible and spreading the disease. I do not tell everyone I am HIV+ with whom I have sex but I also always use condoms all the time. I have yet to have a person ask if I am HIV+ before engaging in sex and I have had several people that would have barebacked me if I would have let them. Should I assume those people are already infected or just stupid. I take my medicine religiously and my viral load has been undetectable for years. Furthermore the person who is most contagious is the person who is seraconverting and may not show up positive if tested also a person can infect someone several days after initial infection. A negative result only means something if they waited three months after last exposure and do not put themselfs at risk. Unless you are in a monogomous committed relationship you should view all partners as potentially being infected.
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