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TELLING SEX PARTNERS YOUR STATUS
#36458 - 06/28/02 10:17 AM
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JUST DIAGNOSED IN FEBRUARY...cd4 WENT UP FROM 316 TO 470 AND VIRAL LOAD DROPPED 68,000 TO 24,000....NOT ON MEDS, DR WATCHING ME...
I AM SINGLE AND ENJOY SEX...SHOULD I TELL ALL I ENCOUNTER THAT ARE POTENTIAL SEX PARTNERS..OR ONLY THOSE WHO WANT TO BAREBACK...IS BAREBACKING SAFE...
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I am sure you will get more than one opinion......so here's mine. If you are having absolutely safe sex, which might be mutual masturbation, with NO exchange of bodily fluids, then I would not feel compelled to tell someone you are HIV positive. If you are not having safe sex or want to form a relationship with someone, I find its best to tell that person your status before it gets complicated and you find it even MORE difficult to tell them.
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I have to agree. I have been positive for several years and have had an undectable viral load for 90% of the time that I have been positive due to meds.
If it's a casual encounter where it's either just jo or me performing oral on them then I don't feel it's necessary to tell. If they are going to perform oral on me or if there is anything that I feel is considered unsafe then yes I always tell.
Also anyone who I feel a relationship with is possible, either friendship or more I will tell before anything at all happends. In the beginning I didn't do this and the person became a friend then found out I was positive and freeked out.
Hope that helps
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Problem with bareback is that even with other positive people you are exposing yourself to other sexually transmitted diseases which can be particularly nasty with someone who is already positive.
I don't tell people if it's absolutely safe sex. Just if it's risky--like anal sex-top or bottom even with a condom, cause it can break and I don't want the responsibilty .
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I'm sure most of the reply's you receive will for the most agree with each other. Without the exchange of body fluids, and just a sexual encounter, no need to let the other person know, but if an intentional relationship or sexual activity such as anal sex even with a condom, you should tell your partner. If your the bottom you can be reinfected with HIV and also other diseases. Take care and good luck. I was just diagnosed last Dec. I'm not on meds either. Try not to get to scared, your cd4 count and viral load will bounce around abit. What you and your doctor will be watching for will be a trend of of falling cd4 and a rise with the viral load. I intend to stay away from meds as long as possible. But keeping watch on blood tests.
take care
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Now that you know you are HIV+ you have a responsibilty to protect yourself from other STD's. Be careful with unsafe sex as you could catch something else and damage your liver and immune system as well. I am always open about my status because I am more concerned about safety for myself. There is a lot of contraversy on the topic of re-infection but if I were you I would educate myself as much as possible before having sex at all. Hope this helps. :)
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I'm on the meds and I bareback ALL the time. I can't get HIV anymore and probally been exposed to all the subytpes by now and my test results are still great. I say go or it condomless sex is the best.
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pos.16yrs.i like sex top or bottom its great! Never had a condom not work.pos.south fl.but i ask for condom one time the man asked, what you have aids my reply! what about you! e
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pos.16yrs.i like sex top or bottom its great! Never had a condom not work.pos.south fl.
a man asked, what you have aids my reply! what about you! do have condom;}e
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You insensitive, arrogant PRICK! You'll go out there knowing that you are positive and screw someone bareback? And not care to infect them? You should be arrested for murder [censored]! How dare you put someone else at risk like that! "Oh, screw it, I can't get HIV again, so I just screw without a condom." That says, "I don't give a damn who I infect, afterall I'm infected anyway." Jeeezuz! No wonder this world is so [censored] up!
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None I mean NONE of my fiends use condoms and they think AIDS is just old. So I don't use them at all and teelling the status thing is strange.
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thats so cool you and friends dont use condoms when it can save your life and others or you just dont care?sick all the time can get old, when your boyfriend crying before he dies and all you can do is hold him. his brief life,he pushed himself beyound his own.he always siad 'i'm going to keep on fighting 'til my last breath and he did we love keith. aids its not a joke or old!safe sex is great between men you have to be alive to enjoy:)eric
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Ha Ha I'm so not afraid of your dumbness. I don't care about hiv at all and my friends will not die but thanks for the support [censored]!!
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YOU KNOW I TOTALLY AGREE W/ GUY WHO CALLED YOU A PRICK AND I AGREE YOU SHOULD BE CHARGED W/ MURDER......DID YOU EVER THINK THAT THESE PEOPLE YOU ARE HAVING SEX W/ HAVE LIVES TOO AND FAIMLY..YOUR SICK AND NEED HELP..EVIDENTALLY YOU ARE NOT AIDS AWARE...AND JUST CAUSE YOU ARE ON MEDS DON'T MAKE THE OTHER PERSON SAFE YOU REALLY SICKIN ME!!!!! WAKE UP..BE SMART
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