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HIV Positive and Dating
#254261 - 02/06/11 09:18 PM
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I know this topic has been covered numerous times but I'm asking a slightly different variation so I apologize in advance for the similarity in questions. I as diagnosed almost 7 years ago. I'm on medicine and my viral load is undetectable and has been for a long time. My t-cells are good. I'm healthy and lead a very normal life. Dating has been very hard for me. I live in a rural part of the US. My fear isn't rejected in revealing my status to people, I just don't want the information shared with numerous people. Shortly after I found out I was positive, I had two very horrible experiences. Both people telling a lot of people about my status, people who had no business knowing. It freaked me out enough that my answer was to just stop dating. It's been 6 years and I'm not willing to just not date for the rest of my life. I'm 38. I think I'm a great person and would bring a lot to a relationship. I'm slowly putting myself back out there but I never know when the right time to reveal my status is and then I have flashbacks to the horrible incidents I had, I get scared and shut down. I know it's not healthy but I'm not sure how to get over this overwhelming speedbump. Thanks in advance for any thoughts, ideas, etc.
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Boy can i relate to your concern! I am recently diagnosed and fear people at work and in my community gossiping and overracting. I have told only 2 solid friends, both live far from me, one in another state and the other in another country. Even though i am in a gayfriendly large urban city, the painful gossip can be bad, i suspect. As a result, i don't date in my city. i am online looking for a mate far from where i live i.e. a long distance relationship. If i find a companion I am prepared to relocate (although I don't want to leave my hiv specialist doctor here!).
Worst of all, I love many of the people I work with and they would want to know, but some have hateful personalities. Since I have told no one here, co-workers could only know from health care workers with access to my records, in which case if that happens, if information is shared---illegally---I will take the appropriate legal action.
I have no intention of voluntarily sharing my hiv status with anyone around here, therefore I won't date anyone around here.
I fear what you have experienced happening to me.
I am sorry you went through that.
Remember that bumper sticker "PEOPLE SUCK".......
well, some really do.
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Recently diagnosed. Started treatment 79 days after infection. I'm being very private about it.
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Hi-Chin Up Dude!!! ME Pozz 21 yrs, Lovin Life-I Just Need A Man! I lived In Chicago, IL & LA, Hollywood, Palm Springs, CA... Currently in Southfield, Mi.? I am 5'11" 180# brown eyes, brown hair, Caucasian, Italian/Catholic. Like to travel. My photo's are current, yours too babe'. Except that sailor dude. I find It Important to always be honest! I carry a voracious sex drive of a 25 year old. Hope that's OK. Friends first with no expectation, that's cool with me man...I am fun, comfortable to be with, & cums with a great sense of humor...Lets Talk Man...
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