Advertisement
The Body: The Complete HIV/AIDS Resource
Follow Us Follow Us on Facebook Follow Us on Twitter Download Our App
Professionals >> Visit The Body PROThe Body en Espanol
Read Now: TheBodyPRO.com Covers AIDS 2014

HIV Life >> Gay Men

Pages: 1
NYC_Guy
Newbie

Reged: 06/22/09
Posts: 6
Loc: New York, NY
Sexual desires lowered?
      #246267 - 06/23/09 05:37 PM

Hi,

I know this is a weird question, but I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

I know I've only had a few days to deal with this (since Saturday, 6/20), but since then I have had zero sexual desires/urges whatever you want to call it. To the point that I do not want to see sex on tv or hear my friends talk about it. It makes me uncomfortable and feel kinda grossed out.

Previous to this, I had a very strong "healthy" sexual appetite. If I wasn't having sex with my "partner," I was masturbating about 2-3x a day. Now the thought of penis, cum, anything just disturbs me.

Has anyone else gone through this? Is this 'normal' or am I having some weird delusional issue in my brain with trying to process everything?

I know this is probably an odd question and maybe too personal for this forum, but I just need to know how to deal with this. I'm in no hurry to have sex again - at all - but I want to know if this is a normal feeling or what.

Thanks everyone

--------------------
---------------------

Check out my new blog: http://ze-gamur.blogspot.com/

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
gwridens
Newbie

Reged: 06/25/09
Posts: 8
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246295 - 06/25/09 02:58 AM

Your problem is not odd or unique. When I was diagnosed a year ago, it was months before even a glimmer of my sexual appetite returned. I know several other poz people that have experienced this. It took me getting past my initial realizations and getting into a certain comfort zone with my disease before I could work on my sexual appetite. In the end, it took a friend of mine that has been positive for 19 years to help me realize, as he so eloquently put it, I had just tested positive, not broken my dick. Give yourself time. It's normal, and in a certain way, a good thing; it gives you time to deal with one thing at a time. You don't need to be trying to cope with testing poz AND trying to figure out ways to break the ice with potential partners at the same time. In the end, you will realize that you just tested positive, you didn't break your dick.

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
hopefulone
Master

Reged: 12/05/08
Posts: 130
Loc: NY, NY
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246314 - 06/26/09 12:26 AM

sexual appetite has most definately diminished for me...i will be 31 in a couple weeks....nyc area. ;-) kidding.

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
aceofspades
Newbie

Reged: 06/28/09
Posts: 2
Hola new
      #246350 - 06/28/09 10:03 AM

Hey there...i read ur post... im still in shock found out yesterday..havent slept dont know what to do where to go from here... i Live in FL
how's been ur 1st week?


Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
NYC_Guy
Newbie

Reged: 06/22/09
Posts: 6
Loc: New York, NY
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246356 - 06/29/09 10:30 AM

I'm glad to know that it isn't something I should be worried about. I guess with time I'll get over that.

Thanks for the response

--------------------
---------------------

Check out my new blog: http://ze-gamur.blogspot.com/

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
NYC_Guy
Newbie

Reged: 06/22/09
Posts: 6
Loc: New York, NY
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246357 - 06/29/09 10:31 AM

lol, that made me laugh, hopefulone Thanks for that, I really needed to smile today.

I wish I was ready to meet someone, but I'm not at all. But I would like to meet guys in the NYC area to just talk to and help figure things out together.

--------------------
---------------------

Check out my new blog: http://ze-gamur.blogspot.com/

Edited by NYC_Guy (06/29/09 10:32 AM)

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
daybyday
Member

Reged: 06/16/09
Posts: 12
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246429 - 07/05/09 02:49 PM

Hi There: It's reasonable to assume you're going through some form of depression due to your recent diagnosis. A side effect of depression is loss to sexual desire. I was diagnosed just about a month ago and although I'm not my old self sexually, I do see glimmers returning. My partner was also diagnosed HIV+ and because the virus has mutated in slightly different ways we need to be safe together - at least for the time being.

Give yourself some time, get to a doctor if you already haven't done so [HIV specialist if you can] and take care of yourself.

I know sex for me will never be the same, but I do know that given time, I will once again relish in the aspect of me and even so, at the end of the day, our sexuality is just one small part of what makes us unique.

Good luck and take it day by day.

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
allangering
Regular

Reged: 07/04/09
Posts: 46
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246504 - 07/11/09 06:58 AM

Many women are able to increase lost sexual desire using prescribed testosterone during menopause. The benefits of testosterone include increased relief of the vasomotor symptoms of menopause, i.e. hot flashes and night sweats; increased energy; a general feeling of well-being; and increased sexual desire.
_____________________
Natural cure for genital warts

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
vejgeta9
Member

Reged: 11/15/08
Posts: 23
Loc: Phoenix, Az
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246781 - 07/30/09 02:04 AM

I am the same way. But I'm hopeful for the future.

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
Angel_Ronnie
Guru

Reged: 06/01/06
Posts: 256
Loc: Gauteng, South Africa
Re: Sexual desires lowered? new
      #246798 - 07/31/09 02:54 AM

The deminish of sexual activities is a normal thing when newly diagnosed. Depending on the person you will either go out and get back at the world for contracting hiv or like most as it seems you can't stand the thought, of being intimate at this point and time, it is part of the greeving process where one is scared of infecting another, until you are adjusted to the fact of living with hiv and that life can be as normal as it was before just a few precautions that must be taken, to protect you and your partner and there are many ways to protect the person you love and the ones you'll meet in years to come. three years down the road and involved with a wonderful soul who makes my knees go weak when he touches me, supportive of me living with hiv and seeing to it that i adhere to meds and we have a healthy active sex life.

It will return in good faith NYC just give yourself time to adjust physically and mentally to this your life will return to normal when you are ready to take it to the next level.

Love and light

Angel

--------------------
"Live for today, because what you do today is what you use to make your future"

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
Pages: 1


What's New at TheBody.com

Additional Information
1 registered and 1 anonymous users are browsing this forum.

Moderator:  TheBody, bogart, crabman, riverprincess 

Permissions
      You cannot start new topics
      You cannot reply to topics
      HTML is enabled
      UBBCode is enabled

Thread views: 5429

 
Jump to

Contact Us | Privacy Statement The Body

*
UBB.threads™ 6.2.3