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      #159710 - 09/08/05 05:55 PM

This puzzled me all the time, but I do not understand the statistic about condom use, breakage, and safety. I wear 2 or 3 condoms, since I been having sex in spas, or meting people online. I am a top only, and I do no practice oral (either way) with casual encounters. This past weekend due to a lot of drinking, I visit one those places again, and had sex 3 times.

Even though I ask the guy if they were positive, I took my precautions. There was not oral sex, some body contact and penetration. I know I used condoms, two at times, usually I check them for holes after I am done, but did not did that this time.

There was a last sex encounter in which I barely remember how everything started, but I know I use 3 condoms, and with this one there was more body contact than usual, but not oral sex.

So, my question is, how reliable is the use of condoms, and what are the chances of been infected by my actions.

Thank you for reading this.

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      #159726 - 09/08/05 10:43 PM

The use of a condom is 100% reliable in protecting against HIV. Receptive oral only carries a theoretical risk but not an actual one. I know sero-discordant couples who perform insertive both giving and receiving anal sex and no protection for oral both giving and receiving and the HIV- partner is still negative after 19 years. So you take there relationship in to consideration and condom use is 100% protection. Also take in to consideration that you can catch many other communicable diseases from sexual contact much easier than HIV.

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      #159746 - 09/09/05 01:15 PM

Thank you so much for your reply.
I always been confused with how easy or hard is to get the virus, how risky is oral sex, and the fact that some pos people have un protected sex with neg partners, and the negative stay negative.

How hard really is to get infected if you are the top, and do not perform oral sex?. I know is high for any stds, but I keep hearing from people “ my partner and I do not used condoms, since he is a top, and have not get infected”, also know of a guy that was with someone for 15 years, his partner was a top, pos, and he is a bottom, and still negative, with no protection.

I am sorry if I sound too stupid by asking, but it is pretty hard sometime to understand all this different information about hiv, window period, chances of infection and so on.

Your view will be highly appreciated.

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      #200783 - 07/20/06 08:03 PM

be careful when using two or even three condoms at the same time, friction may lead to leaks or ruptures.... one at the time does the job just fine.

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