Gays do not choose to be gay! - TheBody.com's Bulletin Boards

I can only think of telling you my true feelings from my heart, regarding so-called "choosing" to be gay. In no way do I wish to attack you back. I just would like you to hear my side of this story, as a gay male. We have listened to yours, so please be considerate and offer me the same courtesy. I promise to not attack you back because that is just not me. I come from an extremely abusive family....a father who nearly beat me near death several times, a mother who told me to lie and deny it to people and who later got into drugs. I grew up angry, scared to death of a father who I so wanted to love me and a mother who I so wanted to see the good in me and take me away from that situation. Now, emotionally, at the age of 32, I am fully ENRAGED with anger. My abuse ended at the age of 18. When I turned 19, I met a man who I thought truly loved me. To make a long story short, he purposely infected me saying, "Welcome to my world and the life that I live." So, you can see that the freedom I eventually attained from my father was now taken over by a virus that tells me how to live, what I can and cannot do, etc., just like my father. I respect your opinions, but I have to tell you that I would never choose to be involved with a group of people who are so stereotyped and flamboyant. Years went by, and I went through a lonely life, with no family. That was, until I met my loving, monogamous and patient partner. We've been together for 3 years now and there isn't a length he wouldn't go for me. It's hard to find someone that understanding and willing, heterosexual, or not. We live a quiet life, like 2 regular everyday men. I'm a competitive bodybuilder and he is a teacher. We have many solutions to obstacles if they happen to show up in our relationship. For example, we don't feel it is normal to fight in our relationship. Instead we believe it is normal to not always agree on things. So, if we disagree on something, the TV is turned off, phone turned off, music off, etc. and then we lay on the bed, or sit, facing each other. One person vents his disagreement until he has entirely gotten everything out, while the other listens by making eye contact. When he is finished, then the process is reversed and the other listens with eye contact. A hug comes soon because we come to a compromise and we forget about the situation altogether. Monogamy is deeply rooted in our companionship and we both feel strongly about it. He makes me laugh, I make him laugh, I pray and am spiritual, as well as him, and his whole family accepts me as his partner. I prayed to God for the longest time to get what I have with him and after at age of 29, we had met. Our love for one another is strong and spiritual, as well as our love to help anyone unfortunate, no matter who they are. I just wish you could understand that it is not a "choice" that I woke up with in my head one morning, especially after having such a difficult past. I enjoy doing duties for the community, like teaching people with disabilities about exercise and nutrition and delivering platters and platters of free cookies/pastries to the children's hospital. Of course I wouldn't want you to condemn me because I'm gay. You would never know it from looking at my partner and I. All I ask is that you please "try" and understand. If I were to put myself in your position, I guess I would probably be wondering if homosexuality is chosen since I wouldn't have anyway of knowing about it. Anyhow, please think about what I said, even if it doesn't mean much to you and have a healthy and happy new year.

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