|husband positive, me negative
Feb 27, 2012
My husband is hiv positive and i am negative well the problem is that he treats me mean at times and says that since i wont have sex with him this is not a marriage well he is right i guess and i do love him but the problem is that i met my ex fiance 2 weeks ago and we went out and got drunk nothing happened cause it was the wrong time of the month for me but if it wasn't i would have had sex with him because we do still care for one another that i know is true but with my husband there is no touching or anything what am i supposed to do about my ex because i still love him but don't want to hurt my husband in the process
Response from Rev. Brown
In a relationship where one is positive and one is negative I think it is important for the two of you to sit down and share all of your feelings surrounding the diagnosis that your husband has been given. Some of his anger could be due to the changes that are now going to take place in his life, what it means to your marriage, will he still be loved by you, and will he be able to give you the love you need just to name a few things. When we have issues in our marriage it is important that we deal with them with each other, and if we need an outlet we go to neutral sources and not sources that can cause past feelings to be reignited. Remember this beloved an ex anything is an ex for a reason. The best thing to do is for you and your husband to sit down and talk about both of your feelings about everything as it pertains to his being positive and what that means to the both of you and your marriage, and also to look to counseling to help you all process through all that comes forth from your sharing with each other.
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