Feb 8, 1999
I am afraid of sex. How can God help me? He hates women who like sex. He expects women to go gladly to her husband's bed. I am unable to adjust to that contraditcion. I was taught as a child to hate and fear sex and my own sexualality. Then, as an adult, I was expected to suddenly love it with my husband. I can not make the adjustment. Any sexual activity leaves me with feelings of shame. I cannot love that which I fear. Why are we taught to fear God, then ordered to love him. I cannot do it.
Response from Rev. Pieters
Have you read the Song of Solomon? This is a book of the Bible which celebrates sexuality, and confirms God's presence in sex. Read it. It is a powerful affirmation of the sexuality God gave us at birth.
You were abused by being taught to "hate and fear sex and my own sexuality." That was wrong. Our sexuality is a good and joyful gift from God, one that can help us communicate our deepest, most intimate feelings with the person we love. God does not want you to feel shame about your sexuality, but pride. Who gave you that sexuality? God gave it to you! Rejoice and be glad in it!
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