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HIV and Herpes kissing and protected sex

Oct 30, 2013

Hello, I wonder if I could ask about a situation here. Yesterday, I visited a prostitute in Colombia. She was a little over-affectionate and kissed me a lot and put her tongue in my mouth. It was little much for me and I didn't reciprocate that much. I put on a condom on and she gave me a blow job with the condom and licked my balls a little. Then we had vaginal sex with the condom. After we went through all of this, I noticed that she had cold sores. They weren't all that pronounced, so I missed them at first.

I already get cold sores fairly frequently, so I know I have HSV-1. I suppose since I already have it I don't need to worry about getting it from her. But do I need to worry about getting it on my genitals because she licked me? Is it possible she has a different strain? Virus 8? This morning I woke up and it looks like I actually have the beginning of a cold sore now too. Does kissing someone with colds sores cause you got get more cold sores even if you already have herpes? Or is it just my stress causing a breakout now? Also, if she doesn't already have genital herpes, it's quite likely that I gave her genital herpes by having sex with her after she sucked my condom-covered penis, yes?

Given all of this, there is also the big question of HIV. I asked her about it and about her cold sores. I think she said this was her first cold sore. She said she asked her doctor about it, and he said don't worry. She said it was from stress because her aunt passed away recently. She also said she had an HIV test recently and it was negative. This all sounds comforting, but I'm not sure I have any reason to believe her especially.

So the big question is, what is my HIV exposure risk here? I have read on this post that kissing is very unlikely to transmit HIV. The fact that she had cold sores obviously increases that risk a bit though. I did not have any breaks, sores, or bleeding in or on my mouth yesterday. How worried should I be? What should I do next? Should I look into PEP or am I being too paranoid?

Thank you so much for your time and consideration. And for your work in general.

Best, Kisser

Response from Mr. Glenn

Thanks for your questions,

Let's straighten some of this out, since you've presented quite a few questions.

I'm not hearing any risk for HIV. All of your sex (even the oral) was protected! A cold sore doesn't change this unless the person is bleeding (which would have to be a VERY irritated cold sore).

Herpes 8 is not a STD, I'm assuming that you mean Herpes Type 2. Her licking your balls doesn't sound specifically risky for Herpes unless she was rubbing her cold sore on you (that may have happened, but you'd know that better than me).

It's very likely that you have a cold sore coming up because of your stress/anxiety.

Lastly, Herpes cells weren't left on the condom after oral sex to infect her. Herpes is transmitted through direct skin to skin contact.

Hope all this helps!


one last question
possible transmission, HELP

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