|Less than 5 seconds of unprotected anal!!! HIV Infection Risk???
Sep 9, 2013
Hello Dr. Cordova, I have read countless posts and have conducted (what seems like) endless research on the subject, and as many answers and blogs on my particular situation as I've found, I have not found a satisfactory answer seeing as how my issue seems a bit different.
Here's the situation. I had a sexual encounter with a 34 y.o. black male that I had literally just met and whom I knew nothing about (sexual history/number of partners etc). I made it clear right off the bat that condoms would be required for anal, but stuff happens. First, he put my penis inside of him for a brief second or two and I immediately yanked it back out after realizing I didn't have a condom on, then as I was trying to put a condom on mine, he put his unprotected penis inside me and got a only a couple pumps in before I yanked him out of me to reiterate my rule of using condoms. He had not ejaculated by this point. Anyhow, after that incident, I gave him oral, and he didn't warn me before ejaculating so most of it got in my mouth and some down my throat.
Although I do not know conclusively if he is HIV+ or not, I have good reason to believe he has been exposed to it in the past as he later admitted to having a LOT of experience with other men. AND being as that he didn't seem concerned w/ wearing condoms it's obvious that 'safe sex' isn't a priority to him, which is equally as scary!
Please help Dr., you have no idea what a response from you would mean to me!!! I feel like all the other freaked-out, worried-sick, sleep-deprived/anxious people on this and other sites right now. I just need to borrow a little wisdom from you until I can get a conclusive test so that I'll be able to stop worrying until I can get the test done. What do you think my risk is for getting HIV based on what I've told you?
Thank you in advance!
| Response from Mr. Cordova
Overall, your risk was fairly low. Oral sex is a safer-sex activity, and does pose a real risk for transmission. The unprotected penetrative sex was extremely brief which makes transmission unlikely. An HIV test at 90 days will give you a conclusive result.
It sounds like you already know the value of using condoms. In the future, keep a closer eye on what's going in your rectum and where your penis is going and you should be good to go.
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