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Condom: holes & oils

Aug 21, 2013

Hi Dr,

I'm a male. I had a sexual encounter with a sex worker yesterday. It's my first vaginal penetrative sex with unknown partner and right now I'm worried to the point of breaking down. I have a wife. I'm worried sick. Please Dr, help me with this. I read some of answers in this website, but it's conflicting and inconclusive.

I'll try to make it short. Here goes: 1) When putting on the extra safe durex condom, she uses her long fingernails just for a brief moment. When I notice it, I decided to put it on myself, with the same condom. The she gave me a brief bj. i dont think her teeth touch the condom. My concern is whether she punctured the condom with her fingernails or teeth. We had vaginal sex for about 5-10 mins until I ejaculate (on and off, not nonstop). I didn't notice any visible breakage. What is my risk of getting HIV?

2) this is my biggest concern. Before putting on the condom and before having sex. She massaged me with oils. there's oil all over my body and her body as well. and before the vaginal sex, she hold my penis (with the condom on) with her oily hands. I've read some of the answers in this site that oils will break down/denature latex condom, making it less effective in preventing infection. But, after I ejaculated, the condom is still intact. My semen was still in the condom and i didnt notice any leakage. Can you explain/define how condom degrade that make it ineffective because of oil? Does it created pores that makes hiv viruses pass thru? Or ineffective as in it causes it to break? What is my risk? during the sex, there was minimal vaginal fluid if not none.

Please Dr. I'm begging you for your opinion and advise. I have a wife. I'm worried sick to the point of breaking down to depression. I don't know what to do. I promise myself not to visit such places again. Please Dr. I have no place to turn to. I'm desperate.

I'm planning to make some contribution in the future when i have extra money.

Response from Mr. Cordova

Hi there,

Thanks for writing in. Condoms are engineered to tear or bust when the integrity of the condom has been comprised i.e. when it tears or rips in any way. The condom remained intact through the entire act of penetrative sex, and therefore it protected you against HIV.

Oil can weaken latex increasing the likelihood of the condom breaking. It's only if the condom were to break that the risk would increase. The massage oil may have weakened the condom, but since it didn't break, you were protected against HIV.

Some STD's are transmitted via skin-to-skin contact. I would suggest a full round of STD testing at the 30 day mark, and just to be extra cautious, an HIV test at 90 days.

I am confident that your results will be negative across the board.

In health,


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