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Sep 9, 2012

Hi Shannon,

48 days ago, I was at a gay night club and blacked out. I only remember parts of the rest of the night after I left the club, I have a brief memory of meeting a random guy on the street and holding hands with him (don't know who he is or his contact information). I remember suggesting that we go to a gay night club (but he said that it was closed since it was already 4am). I have a brief memory of walking into his apartment building and into his apartment. Then I have a brief memory of him walking into his bedroom by himself. The next memory I have is of him telling me that I can leave his apartment if I wanted to. These are the only memories I have from his apartment, and they are literally 1-2 second snapshots. The next memory I have is of me drunkenly looking for and finding a familiar restaurant to see if a friend (that I had met there once before) was there. I didn't see my friend, so I left the restaurant and got into a cab home.

I don't have any memory of having anal sex, but I was also very drunk and can't piece together all my actions. I did not have any lube or anything messy on my anus/penis the next day, and I did not feel anal pain the next day (I tried anal sex only once, but it hurt so bad after just one thrust that I stopped it immediately). If I had bottomed, would I have felt it the next morning?

I suppose oral sex was a possibility, but since that doesn't carry a meaningful risk, I suppose I shouldn't worry about that.

After 23 days from that night, I developed a throat ache and my throat became scratchy (especially when the weather is brisk). I didn't have a fever, but felt cold, fatigued and weak. I developed a headache that lasted approx 3 weeks. (although the headache began as I was landing during a flight). Most worryingly, I feel weak and my body has constant mild tremors which become pronounced and visible when I work out.

Can you offer your thoughts on my risk?

Response from Ms. Southall

Hi If you have only tried anal sex one other time and it was painful and you stopped I would really believe that you would feel as if you had had anal sex. Oral sex yes does carry a small risk of HIV transmission. Your symptoms are not associated with HIV but could be associated with many other things, including just allergies. If your symptoms continue I would recommend you following up with your health care provider and I would ask for HIV testing this just for your peace of mind! But I don't feel from what you have described that you are at risk of HIV.

Be well and stay safe, Shannon

accurancy of 8 week
Hiv window period - addon

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