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Husband cheated on me

Jul 23, 2011

Hi Dr. I hope all is well My husband cheated on me a year ago. He got unprotected oral sex from a sex worker. We are working things out. He has tested two times a month for the last year he has had over 30 rapid tests . We have not had sex for a complete year when we finally did I got sick with a head cold two weeks after. My concern is I read about a French study that said that rapid tests really don't work well. I am very nurves and so is he. Can you give me your opinion on our situation

Response from Dr. Frascino


Oral sex carries only a very minimal risk for HIV acquisition. The "over thirty" ( over 30!!!) negative rapid HIV tests out 12 months from your hubby's extramarital hummer are conclusive, definitive and extremely excessive. Are you trying to get him into the Guinness Book of World Records? A single negative rapid HIV test (yes, just one!) outside the HIV seroconversion window would be considered definitive. Over 30 negative rapid HIV tests out 12 months is pure insanity. Exactly what part of "HIV negative" are you having difficulty understanding. I don't know what "French study" you are referring to, but I can assure you 30 rapid tests cannot possibly be wrong! You obviously are having trust issues. I would recommend that your husband stop testing and that you consider couples counseling to rebuild trust. HIV is clearly not the problem here, okay?

Dr. Bob

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