Disclosure Question, Need Advice
Apr 17, 2011
Hi my best friend has introduced me to her cousin who is overseas but will be visiting soon. We are hitting it off really well so far, he even sent me a dozen roses and candies! My question is, my other friend who knows my status said I should wait until I meet him in person then tell him my status if we click (before we do anything sexual of course). I tend to agree because I want him to be able to judge me based on everything and not just my status. I just feel I'd rather tell him in person instead of online because I'm scared he just would get scared and ditch me when I told him like so many others have. He seems like a great guy. We are doing some heavy flirting via email. My question is should I wait and tell him in person after we've met so he can at least give me a chance? Thanks for yoir advice! Oh btw I am undetectable and doing great healthwise!
Response from Dr. Frascino
Disclosure is never easy. No two situations are alike. In general, I recommend disclosing sooner rather than later (and certainly before the pants come off!). See link below to my recent blog post on this topic: "A Telling Tale of Trick or Treat: Remember to Spit, Don't Swallow!". Also take a read through the information in the chapter in the archives devoted to HIV disclosure issues. Hopefully you'll find the information helpful.
Get Email Notifications When This Forum Updates or Subscribe With RSS
This forum is designed for educational purposes only, and experts are not rendering medical, mental health, legal or other professional advice or services. If you have or suspect you may have a medical, mental health, legal or other problem that requires advice, consult your own caregiver, attorney or other qualified professional.
Experts appearing on this page are independent and are solely responsible for editing and fact-checking their material. Neither TheBody.com nor any advertiser is the publisher or speaker of posted visitors' questions or the experts' material.