Apr 3, 2011
I was dating a guy (I'm female) and before being intimate with him, asked him several times about his status in which he replied "I am clean, I have been tested for everything". Now, I find out he has given me the disease. When I contacted him informing him, he changed his number and his sister even replied "you got what you deserved" and he has cursed me out before changing his number. How do I go about pressing charges or at least preventing him from passing it on to other victims? He also refuses to be tested, arguing he has already been tested. But the thing is however, he only had a CBC done. He is in his late 30s and recently signed up on a dating site. How do I stop this maniac?
| Response from Dr. Frascino
Although some states have non-discrimination laws on the books, pressing charges in this case would be extremely difficult. For one thing, you chose to have unprotected sex with him. (Even if someone slaps a lie detector on his Mr. Happy, you shouldn't believe his claims of being STD/HIV negative. One out of every five HIV-positive Americans have absolutely no idea he is infected!) Second, if Mr. Scumbag has never been tested, it will be difficult for you to try to charge him with deliberately infecting you as he could claim not knowing his status.
Unfortunately there is very little you can do other than report him as a sexual contact to your local health department. They will contact him regarding the need to be tested.
Hopefully your tragic story will serve as a cautionary tale for others who are considering having unprotected sex.
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