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Positive male Neg Female

May 8, 2010

Hello, My wife and I have been marrried for 10 years, we have 2 wonderfull children and live the normal life of most suburbanites. Recently At a routine blood test I tested postive for HIV, I had two more tests in the days following the positive result and all came back the same. My numbers were sky high, My numbers were 200 and 70+ thousand viral load. I was put right onto atripla and my numbers returned to normal with in 7 months Thank God. My question is My wife never contracted HIV, 11 years and two kids together and nothing, not even a hint of HIV And we never used condoms from day 1 together. I know where I got it from and it was b-4 my wife and I got together. Is it pure luck she remained HIV- all these years or could she have somting blood related that keeps her from aquiring HIV? I ask my doctor about it and he says it just the luck of the draw and she should play Lotto.

Response from Dr. Frascino


It's important to realize that every HIV exposure does not lead to HIV transmission (thankfully!). I've known many situations similar to yours and there are a number of testimonials in the archives of this forum that relate similar stories as well. Have a look! There are both viral (viral strain, viral load, etc.) and host (immune integrity, concurrent infections, local trauma, etc.) that are involved with HIV transmission. And there is a component of sexual Russian Roulette; i.e., luck. So yes indeed, your wife should not only play Lotto, but also book a trip to Vegas right away.

I would suggest both you and your wife review the information in the chapter on magnetic couples in the archives of this forum.

Good luck to you both.

Dr. Bob

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