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Need Your Humble Advice...

Mar 10, 2010

Dear Dr. Bob,

Thank you for taking the time out top read my post and I think what you do is simply amazing. It is not often that a physician, not to mention one of your stature and influence would take the time out to educate and guide so many people.

My question is a little awkward. I met a very sweet girl, she is from Korea and I am from the U.S. I want to engage in physical contact but on the flip side, I want to be sure she is disease free. As much as I trust her, this is just something I really can't take a persons word on. I am a single parent and I do not want to risk getting HIV or other diseases by simply taking someones word. I feel terrible and have been contemplating this becasue I know we are at the point of getting physical.

Can you please advise me on how I may approach her in asking her to be tested before we engage in physical activity? or is this just a really bad thing to ask someone to begin with? I hope I am not insulting anyone with my question.

Yours truly,


Response from Dr. Frascino

Hello Brice,

No, you're certainly not insulting anyone with your question, and I certainly do not think it's an inappropriate consideration. My advice is to be open and honest with your new gal-pal. Tell her you want to take your relationship to the next level, and to do so responsibly you would like both of you to go and get STD screened together. She may have similar concerns about you Brice! I don't think you should ask that only she be tested. I would advise you go together, even if you are confident of your negative status.

Good luck.

Dr. Bob

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my pregnant wife of 3years tested HIV+ , and i Testede -

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