I am a jerk...
Oct 22, 2009
So I am married, have 3 kids and have never had homosexual sex until I discovered Craig's List about a year ago (I am 36). As I mentioned, I am a piece of garbage for betraying my wife, who I love like you would not believe, but that's another issue entirely (or is it?). Anyways, I was looking to fool around with a female for lack of sex at home when I realized how difficult and unrealistic it is to find a non-hooker female on CL. Also had no interest in a relationship, strictly wanted to get off with no complications. So it started with letting a CD blow me, then another, then a guy, etc. I realized a BJ is a BJ if you close your eyes. I also realized how easy it is to get a guy to suck your dick for free with no strings attached.Maybe that is why I keep doing it. I don't know. Sleeping at night without feeling MASSIVE guilt is difficult at best. ANYWAYS, my real question is: how at risk am I of contracting HIV from these blowjobs. They have all been without a rubber. That truly is all I have done though, which I would now estimate as being around 50 blowjobs that I have received. What are the statistical odds of getting AIDS, or anything else for that matter, from getting head without a rubber. I realize Herpes is a very real possibility, what about the big HIV and other STD's? Thank you.
Response from Dr. Frascino
You never had homosexual sex until you discovered Craig's List? You mean Craig's List turned you gay? Wow. One can only wonder what might happen to a suggestible guy like you if you happened to start watching the Jerry Springer Show. You might become a cross-dressing, obese, white-trash toothless hillbilly who is having sex with both his sister and her husband.
The estimated per-act statistical risk for acquiring HIV from unprotected insertive oral sex with a partner confirmed to be HIV infected is 0.5 per 10,000 exposures. Your estimated statistical risk would be less, as we don't know the HIV status of the 50 (50!?!) Craig's List dudes who tasted your penis popsicle. Overall your HIV risk is low. If you remain concerned, get a single HIV-antibody test at the three-month mark.
As for other STDs that can be transmitted via blow jobs, there are a number of them. Those that cause sores and blisters (like syphilis and herpes) can be transmitted quite easily during all types of oral sex -- both getting and giving. Gonorrhea, chlamydia and NGU are also transmissible while getting sucked (or sucking). A simple STD screen can be performed by your doctor or an STD clinic to ascertain if you picked up anything other than a blow job on CL.
I'd suggest you level with your wife. It's not only the best way to deal with your "massive guilt;" it's also the right thing to do. In addition, I suggest you seek psychotherapy (counseling) to explore sexual orientation issues.
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