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Will my past haunt me five years later?
Sep 13, 2009

I have 100% of the time been in a strict monogomous relationship since August 2004 with my wife. I have a phobia of the past and from time to time I get tested for HIV in addition I gave blood in May 2005 in June 2007 and yesterday I was given the OraQuick advance test. Everything is negative. How can I get this phobia out of my mind. Can my past still come back to haunt me? All of family and friends say it is in my head, but I worry constantly. It keeps me up at night and really puts stress on my life. In fact I am even afraid to pick up my little baby girl. I am actually seeing counseling about this but your expert advice would be deeply appreciated.

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hi,

Sure, your past can "haunt" you but it can no longer hurt you. You have overwhelming and irrefutable proof that HIV is not your problem. Your fears are unwarranted and irrational. If your current counseling sessions are not helping you confront and conquer these fears, I would suggest you see a psychiatrist (an M.D.). You may need medications in addition to more intensive psychotherapy. See below.

Good luck.

Dr. Bob

Someone to talk to Sep 13, 2009

I relize i am crazy, one day while jacling off a guy touched my nut sack. with his hand, he was fully dressed and had not touched himself. I know i can not get HIV this way. However I can not let this go. do you know of some one us worried well folks can talk to about our fears?Thank you for all u do

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hello,

You are absolutely correct your HIV acquisition risk is completely nonexistent. You are not crazy, but you do harbor irrational fears. You are not alone as you can see bye reviewing the impressive number of worried wells (and "x-filers") who visit and use this forum on a regular basis. And what you see here is, of course, only the tip of the iceberg, so to speak!

Irrational fears are certainly not limited to HIV. Many folks may harbor irrational fears of heights or flying or snakes or spiders or rabid rightwing wingnuts fomenting myths and lies about health care reform. Oh, OK, that last group really is scary, I must agree. But the others are common examples of totally unwarranted worries. How could an itsy bitsy, teeny weenie spider hurt a 200-pound man??? Yet some guys totally freak at the sight of a minuscule eight-legged creepy crawler! The best way to confront and conquer any type of phobia is to seek psychotherapy (counseling). Psychologists are usually well versed in how to treat these types of problems. Ask your general medical doctor for a referral. Recognizing you have a problem with irrational fears is half the battle.

Good luck.

Dr. Bob



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