Aug 9, 2009
I'm a 40 yr old married man. Last week I was away on business and was inebriated (funny how that often turns up in these questions) and for the first time met with a male escort. We engaged in unprotected oral sex, anal sex (I penetrated) and analingus (my tongue). He seemed very clean. My question is, when and how can I be sure that I have not brought something home to my wife? Thanks so much for your help.
Response from Dr. Frascino
Another drunken married guy on the business trip doing the unsafe horizontal mattress mambo with stud-for-hire who is now concerned that his wam-bam-thank-you-sam adventures may bring something unwanted home to the little Mrs.!?!? Wow, you're like the third one this week! Is there a GOP convention in town or something?
Here's what I would suggest:
1. Level with your wife regarding your risky business while on your recent business trip.
2. Consider psychotherapy (counseling) to explore issues of sexual orientation. It's less risky and much more effective than the getting smashed and hiring rent-a-stud to see what happens.
3. You and your wife should use latex or polyurethane condoms until your HIV status can be confirmed to be HIV negative.
4. Routine STD screening can be done at any time. However, you'll need to wait until the three-month mark to get a definitive result on your HIV-antibody test.
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