Seriously worried-it's making me ill (menatlly)... ( (GET TESTED, 2009))
Jun 12, 2009
I am in desperate need of an opinion...
Around 7 years ago, at uni, I had, i think as I very drunk, unprotected sex with someone I barely knew. We kept in contact for a short while afterwards but then I lost contact. I only had sex with him once but I am worried I may have contracted something.
Over the past 7 years I have had Pitryisis Rosea, it did clear up faily quickly, an ear infection and one of two colds. I saw something on tv that heightened my concern...
I have had two blood tests, full blood count not actually hiv tests and two pap smears which were both clear so in terms of general health I am ok but I have become obsessed! I notice every ache and pain and so anxious I can barely think straight! Any advice?
Response from Dr. Frascino
Any advice? Sure. Care to take a guess what it might be??? I'll give you a hint: See the recent post from the archives below.
haunted by the past... Jun 12, 2009
Hi Dr Bob,
First off, thank you so much for all you do - your service is not only noble but extremely necessary in continuing to educate people about STDs / HIV, etc.
My situation / recent "realization" has brought on a ton of stress in my life and due to this I can't tell if I'm suffering from true symptoms or if its all stress induced.
A few years ago, I engaged in a sexual situation with a friend (we're both gay) I know and consider to be a very smart person. Before and since this situation, I consider myself to be an extremely careful person when it comes to knowing how to avoid "risky" behavior. Or so I thought.
The night my friend and I hooked up, one thing led to another and we ended up in bed together. I never considered sex to be on the menu for the night. In the heat of things, my friend, without warning or asking, inserted his penis into me very briefly in which I told him to stop. The entire incident could not have lasted more than a few seconds. Due to this, and my own ignorance, I ignored the situation and dismissed it as no risk since it was so brief and I put it to an immediate stop. There was no ejaculation whatsoever but I don't know if there was precum, etc. I should also mention I know my status was negative prior to this incident as I had been tested a few months prior.
Since this I have been in a committed monogamous relationship in which we do have unprotected sex since I have thought of myself as clean and free of disease and my boyfriend has also tested negative prior to our relationship.
Recently I was feeling under the weather with vague symptoms so I went to Google which kept pointing to HIV in a lot of my searches. This has scared the crap out of me as there is one, and only one, situation that could have put me at such risk. Until I did further reading, I really didn't think what happened posed much risk, if any, at all!
Maybe I'm over-analyzing but I becoming nearly disfunctional! Although I'm feeling better I still fixate on every little thing that doesn't seem "right" about my health and keep re-playing that incident over and over in my head.
In a panic I confronted my friend who tells me he believes he's "A OK" and that what we did was so minimal I need to get a grip. However, he didn't specify that he's been tested recently and knows for a fact he's ok so that only has me spiraling further in my anxiety.
So my rather long-winded question to you is, how high of a risk do you think that incident was? I don't think I could live with myself if I've caused harm to my boyfriend. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm mentally crippled by this whole thing (impacting my work, relationship, etc) and don't know what else to do!!
Advertisement > Response from Dr. Frascino
What do you mean you "don't know what to do . . ."??? Isn't it painfully obvious??? Care to take a guess? Here, I'll help. You had an extremely brief episode of unprotected receptive anal sex. What is the only reliable way to determine if you acquire HIV after an exposure? Come on, you know the answer, right? Of course you do! GET TESTED! See, I told you that you knew the answer!
Symptoms are unreliable in predicting who is or is not HIV infected. The only reason to worry or get tested is HIV-exposure risk.
Do I think there is a snowball's chance in hell you're HIV infected? No, I do not. However, the only way to know for sure is what? Correct! Get tested!
You report "becoming disfunctional (that should be spelled with a "y" by the way), spiraling further in anxiety, being mentally crippled" and having your psychological state impact your work and relationship. So turn off the computer and go get tested! You can have a definitive result in as few as 20 minutes with a rapid test. I'm confident you'll be WOO-HOOing instead of worrying when you see that result.
Good luck. I'm here if you need me (but I'm confident you won't).
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