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Fingering-please help

Mar 25, 2009

Hi Dr Bob

About a year ago I had an encounter with a woman I met that night. We ended up in my hotel room and I fingered her and she briefly gave me oral sex. I did not have actual intercourse with her. My problem is a friend of teased me about contracting hiv!!! After a couple of days I began to get very stressed about the possibility. After 5 days and after much prodding of my lymph nodes i woke up in a sweat. I went to my doctors and she said I am unlikely to have contracted hiv and said my lymph nodes were not swollen even though I could feel them and struggled to swallow. The dr said that stress was causing the sweat and difficulty swallowing. I also began to develop a dry cough, although this only seemed to occur after having alcohol!!! After a month or two I also got floaters in my right eye again which my Dr and Optician said was a common occurence. I have seen my dr numerous times and he basically dismisses my fears. My questions are 1)Would ARS occur after only 5 days? 2) Are these symptons of ARS or possibly just stress?. 3) Is it possible to contract hiv just by fingering, even if she was very wet? I have also had anxiety problems in the past. Please help me Dr Bob. I will make a donation to your foundation.

Thank u in advance!!!!

Very stressed bloke

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hello Very Stressed Bloke,

Your HIV-acquisition risk is nonexistent, assuming the skin on your fingers was intact. To specifically address your questions:

1. No.

2. Stress.

3. No (assuming the skin on your fingers was intact).

You report you've had anxiety problems in the past. Guess what? They're back!

My advice:

1. Get help for your anxiety issues. Psychotherapy, as well as some anti-anxiety medication, may well be beneficial.

2. Consider getting some better friends.

3. Believe your doctor!

Thank you for your donation to the Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation (

Be well. Stop worrying!

Dr. Bob

Dr Bob, are you upset with me?
Grandfather and HIV (CASUAL CONTACT, 2009)

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