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Second Posting, Really Could Use Your Help Dr. Bob, Please

Jun 11, 2008

Hey Dr. Bob -

Sorry to post this again, but I'm really, really going out of my gourd with fear. I really hope you can find a quick second to help me out. Also, do you accept donations in different currencies (GBP, or EUR)? If so, please let me know. You render an invaluable service to the neurotic and balanced alike. Thanks for your time, and have a good day!!

SJ1Alpha wrote:

I've been reading your responses to questions. They really demonstrate a real commitment to helping folks ... and alot of patience :) Anyway, I hope you might have a bit more patience to hear my own terror tale, if I may ...

So, 6-7 weeks ago, out with a couple of mates, drinking heavily, etc. Late, LATE at night we decide to call an escort over. Mind you, not some prostitute off the street. We live in London, in Chelsea, one of the classier areas, so this was what we think is a more reputable escort service (whatever that means). Long story short, Brazilian escort comes over and I start messing around with her. Here is what happened ...

We get naked, I'm sucking nipples, French kiss just a bit. She starts jerking me off while using her tongue on the testicles. Then she says, "Okay, let's get a condom, because you always need to use a condom." She puts it on me and tries to climb on top. But, I guess it was a combo of booze and having been up for 24 hours, but I couldn't get an erection, so no insertion. So, she goes down on me for a bit (with the condom on), nothing happens. So, I decide to try fingering her. She asks me to go wash my hands first, which I do, then I get to fingering her for maybe a minute, deeply. I obviously had vaginal fluids on my finger and hand. After the minute, I'm still - ahem - not at attention. So, she turns me around, takes the condom off and starts masturbating me. Then after a minute or two, I take over using the same hand I had fingered her with. I masturbate for maybe 3-4 minutes then come.

Now, of course, I'm nervous as hell (like most people) about potentially making the biggest mistake in my life. I have read through the forums and seen the answers from other people. But, I wanted to get a 1-on-1 opinion from you if you have a chance. Really sorry to bother you, but clearly you know your background on the disease.

Anyway, hope you have a chance to reply. I really, really appreciate your taking the time to read this either way, and have a great day Dr. Bob.

Cheers, SJ1

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hi SJ1,

You're not the first one to have these types of concerns. In fact, if you read through the archives, you'll find quite a few posts asking about sexcapades almost identical to yours. My response is always the same. Getting a "1-on-1" opinion from me merely means I have to type the same information over and over again. Hence my reluctance to respond to nearly identical questions on a daily basis. So I'll answer only briefly and refer you back to the archives for a more detailed discussion, OK? Your HIV risk is essentially nonexistent. The chance of HIV-acquisition resulting from vaginal fluids on your hands being transmitted to your urethra (pee hole) is extremely remote. If you are worried, get a single rapid HIV test at the three-month mark. I'm quite confident the results will be negative, OK?

To answer your other question, yes, the Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation ( does accept all currencies, appreciated securities, diamond mines, oil fields, family jewels, etc. Thanks for your donation. In return, I'll send my good-luck karma that your definitive HIV test will be negative.

Good luck.

Dr. Bob

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