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Thank You...but (reposted from anemia and fatigue)

Apr 8, 2008

Hello again Dr. bob. You may remember me as the guy who thought he contracted HIV by having protected sex for 5 min. and unprotected oral with a girl he met at a bar. The guy who then passed the virus on to his girlfriend by having one time protected sex and unprotected oral sex. Or the guy who then passed it on to his family through the use of a toothbrush. Or you may not remember me at all in the ridiculous amount of stories you must hear everyday.

I want to say thank you. I took the advise that you gave me in your last response and it probably saved my life. I came clean to my girlfriend and family. I also received mental help. Both my family and my girlfriend received negative test results, and I have tested negative for antibodies out to 6 months. Also If you remember I was tested for all STDS including HEP A,B,C, and 2 PCR DNA tests and all tests where negative. Life is beautiful WHAHOOO!


My girlfriend and I are still sharing symptoms of something. We both have white spots on our rigid fingernails, we both have frequent noisy stomachs, Severe chest pain (right in the center of the chest). I can't speak for her on this but I have really sore hands and arms, sore bones. I also have a mass in my liver area, I had an ultra sound that came back normal but the pain and lump are still there.

On other sites (which I have stopped looking at) these are listed as symptoms of hiv. On this site I have read people writing in and complaining of these same symptoms and your response has been "these symptoms are not ARS symptoms and are not consistent with HIV". I believe you. So my question is:

What do we all have? LOL. But seriously. Besides the apparent mental illness, what is giving many of us the same symptoms? noisy stomachs, sore bones, finger nail fungus? I'm sure there is a multitude of diseases and viruses that cause these symptoms, but have you had anybody write you back after finding out the actual cause of their symptoms? And if so is there a consistent answer?

But to get back to my original thought, Thank You for your help. I was borderline suicidal over this. Your words really did save my life. Thanks

Response from Dr. Frascino


Oh yes, I remember you well. I'm delighted your whacko-nutso totally irrational perseveration on HIV has resolved with the help of mental health counseling, HIV tests and leveling with your girlfriend and family. Honesty is never a bad idea! So WOO-de-frickin'-HOO!!!

As for your "but . . . ," unfortunately I cannot diagnose medical conditions over the Internet. (I don't have access to your complete medical history or laboratory tests or the benefit of a physical examination.) Plus, this is an HIV/AIDS Web site, not a general medicine Web site. I can't tell you what you have, but I can tell you what you don't have. You don't have HIV!

Regarding your symptoms, you are correct: "There are a multitude of diseases that can cause these symptoms." Has anyone ever written me back after finally finding out the actual cause of their "noisy stomach" or "sore hands and arms," etc.? Yes, of course, it happens all the time. "Is there a consistent answer" to these problems? No, of course not. You yourself just said there are a "multitude of diseases" that could cause these problems.

My advice is simple:

1. Work with a good general internist to evaluate your persistent or bothersome medical problems.

2. Continue to work with your mental health counselor to assure your irrational fixation on HIV does not resurface.

3. Continue to celebrate your WOO-HOO!

Dr. Bob

I am not going to stop?
what are my chances of infection?

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