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Dec 13, 2007

After 3 yrs of marriage, I am told that my husband is HIV +. You can imagine my devastation and surprise. He has NO IDEA how he got the virus and tells me he (thinks) is was from a dental visit(dirty needles). I heard the virus only stays "active" for a few seconds outside of the body (by needle). Is this true, and if not, do you believe my husbands explanation? I don't know what to think anymore. I just want answers.

Response from Dr. Frascino


Do I believe your husband's claim that he was HIV infected from a dental visit??? Well, unless your husband's name is Kimberly Bergalis, no, I don't believe it. I also doubt he has "NO IDEA" how he got infected. More than likely this is not a subject he wants to discuss with you. He's probably embarrassed and also probably afraid of losing you due to his "lapse of judgment." At any rate, right now exactly how he contracted the virus perhaps isn't as important as the fact that he is now HIV positive and that you'll need to be tested out to six months from your last potential exposure (unprotected sexual exposure). Hopefully you'll remain negative. You'll both need to adjust to your new reality as a magnetic couple (one poz, one neggie). I'd suggest you both read through the information in the archives of this forum on magnetic couples and also on sexual HIV transmission. You might also consider couples counseling. It might help your husband be more honest about his HIV-risk behavior.

Good luck to you both. I'm here if you need me.

Dr. Bob

Thank you!!!
The crap you have to put up with

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