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Massage and hand relief risk

Nov 24, 2007

Dear Dr Bob

Ive looked threw the archives under "can you have safer sex" but i cant understand how a massage and mutual masturbation has been classed as low risk? Shouldnt it be no risk? Especially a massage ?

The last 4 months ive been going to massage parlours and had a genuine massage but sometimes i get the extra hand relief to finish.

I had a low risk HIV scare a year ago and after i tested negative i promised myself i will never take ANY risks again.

These are the situations ive put myself in:

On 6 occasions ive had a massage with oil and the masseur has given me hand relief until i came.

Once during a massage i sucked on the ladys nipple and touched her anus but did not put my finger inside. I had no cuts on my finger.

Whenever ive received a hand job i never saw any blood on there hands from cuts and when i sucked the ladys nipple she had no piercings.

Ive been living abroad for 4 months now away from my wife but will be back with her at Christmas so all my anxiety is if I have put myself at risk and possibly caught something and then giving it to her.

Please tell me straight Dr Bob. Did I put myself at risk and should I test.

Thanks for everything you do here Robert. Ive donated $50.


Response from Dr. Frascino

Hi Tony,

I am not responsible for what others write, but I can tell you the scientific facts concerning HIV transmission. HIV is not transmitted by massage or mutual masturbation, unless there are extraordinary extenuating circumstances, such as both partners' bleeding profusely with adequate exposure of an open wound to tainted blood.

The activities you describe are completely safe and carry essentially no risk for HIV transmission. Testing is not warranted. If you don't believe me or remain worried despite my reassurances, get a single rapid HIV test at the three-month mark. The result will undoubtedly be negative.

Thank you for your tax-deductible gift to The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation ( It's warmly appreciated, particularly in this Thanksgiving season.

Stay safe and you'll stay well.

Dr. Bob

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