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bad decision

Apr 6, 2007

Aloha Dr. Bob, A couple weeks ago I went out and had sex with a prostitute( protected oral and anal).I don't know what I was thinking but I feel like I really screwed up and might be paying for one bad decision for the rest of my life(I've always wanted to get married and have kids one day..white picket fence etc.) Now I'm starting to really worry I got HIV even though I used a condom and it didn't break and I didn't see any holes etc. Assumming she had HIV does my condom use make me not at all at risk or is there still risk. If the penetration was short is there less risk...I started freaking out after about 10 seconds and pulled out. Would getting tested at 1 month make any sense(I know the test is not conclusive until 3 months...Ive been reading the archives) I'm pretty anxious about the encounter and waiting 3 months seems like forever.Would neg at one month be an encouraging sign? at 2 months? I keep thinking that somehow it got through the condom(did I mention I'm a bit of a if you couldn't tell) I keep feeling tired and weak and checking my lymph nodes. Also I feel like I'm losing this a sympton of hiv? I am starting to freak myself out. I've read alot of the posts and I see I'm not the only one that lets their worrys get the best of them. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks Doc and I'll be sending a donation your way! Cheers!

Response from Dr. Frascino


If you've been reading the archives, then you'll already know everything I'm going to advise, but since "repetition is the mother of learning," here we go again:

1. Protected sex is indeed protected if the latex (or polyurethane) condom was used properly and did not fail. HIV cannot get through intact latex (or polyurethane). No way. No how.

2. Symptoms are notoriously unreliable at predicting HIV infection. Stop checking your lymph nodes. You have absolutely no idea what you're feeling for anyway and it just makes you look silly poking and prodding here, there and everywhere.

3. HIV-antibody tests taken prior to the three-month mark are not considered definitive or conclusive. So I don't recommend them.

Thanks for your donation! In return, I'm sending you my good-luck/good-health karma that your three-month HIV test is negative. From what you've told me, it undoubtedly will be.

Good luck. Be well. (And that's a doctor's order!)

Dr. Bob

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asking for the 3rd time, please help

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