Dec 16, 2006
Since a person's HIV status can change without him (or her) knowing it,isn't the whole subject of hiv status irrelevant?Even the partner who says"I am negative" might be wrong or...Lying.So one has a chance of having sex with an HIV positive person,believing that he is negative. Asking what a partner's status is..telling your own status etc. just perpetuates the myth that this information is accurate. Isn't the wisest course to be safe with everyone regardless of what they say their status is...because ANYone could be positive??
Response from Dr. Frascino
I agree everyone should always consider that their sex partners could be HIV positive and take the appropriate precautions. Period. However, I still think discussing HIV status is a good idea, as it immediately brings up the topic of safer sex. Also, those of us who know we are HIV positive have an obligation to advise our sexual partners of our status before having sex. (It's even a law in some states, but only rarely enforced.) And then there are "sero-sorters," HIV-positive folks who choose only to have sex with other HIVers, thereby reducing their worry of possibly infecting a partner. You're correct HIV-negative sero-sorters are only as negative as their last HIV test and also rely on a degree of honesty that isn't always reliable. Consequently, as you can see, the disclosure issues can be complex. But your initial point is well taken. Twenty-five percent of the estimated one million HIV-positive Americans have absolutely no idea they have contracted the virus! So even if someone straps a lie detector on their Mr. Happy, I still wouldn't advise believing them!
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