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Dottore per favore!

Jun 30, 2006

Hi Doc,

Thanks again, I've written before but with no luck ... I hope you find the time to answer me now ...

I had unprotected vaginal sex with a West-European girl. Once. I had a negative test at 25 days. I then performed oral sex on a different girl afterwards - I got a friction burn on my nose from her stubble. I had another test one month later. Also negative.

I then had a three month test after the second encounter. No probs. Since then (this is now seven months on) I'm still scared. I'm sure I've got swollen glands. I've got mouth ulcers, bleeding gums and a sore throat. I'm having night sweats. I'm in my 20s. Everywhere I look I see HIV in the news etc.

After every test the doctors told me that I didn't have a high-risk encounter and that future tests would be unnecessary. But these symptoms keep getting worse.

What should I do? I don't want to waste important resources on unnecessary testing - but this fear is affecting my quality of life.

I've learned my lesson and haven't had sex since November ...

Thanks a lot in advance - check in the post ...

Response from Dr. Frascino


A friction burn on your nose from her stubble??????? Hmmmm . . . . I guess that could also be called a "carpet burn," eh?

Look, Dude, your repeatedly negative tests out to three months following a low-risk exposure are definitive and conclusive. HIV is not your problem. No way. No how.

I can't diagnosis the cause of your symptoms over the Internet, but I can definitively tell you what's not causing them: it's not HIV!

I agree you should not waste resources on unnecessary testing. The results will continue to be negative over and over again. I also agree "fear" (not HIV!) is affecting the quality of your life. Getting appropriate treatment for your fears would certainly not be wasting resources. In fact, I strongly recommend you seek psychological counseling to help confront and conquer your anxiety and irrational fears of HIV. Hopefully then you'll be able to accept the truly wonderful news that you are unequivocally HIV negative.

Thanks for your donation!

Good luck! Remember, HIV is not your problem!

Dr. Bob

no q, only gratitude
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