The Body: The Complete HIV/AIDS Resource
Follow Us Follow Us on Facebook Follow Us on Twitter Download Our App 
Professionals >> Visit The Body PROThe Body en Espanol
Ask the Experts About

Safe Sex and HIV PreventionSafe Sex and HIV Prevention
Rollover images to visit our other forums!
Recent AnswersAsk a Question
  • Email Email
  • Glossary Glossary


Nov 14, 2004

Dear Dr. Frascino,

Sorry for the improper title. I just wanted to catch your attention. Of course, I don't hate you!

First of all, I would like to thank you for your great work here. Like someone wrote in this forum, you are truly an angel!

Let me get to the main point. I am a hetrosexual male and had a sexual encounter (unprotected giving/receiving oral sex, handjob with virginal fluid and protected virginal intercourse) with a high risk individual (escort). About two weeks after this encounter, I started to have symptoms that are consistent with ARS (cough, spiking fever, swollen lymph nodes/tonsils, etc.). Now at five weeks after encounter, symptoms are slowly fading away (except tonsils and lymph nodes). As you can probably imagine, I am extremely worried and scared. I am very stressed out and coming to the point that I can't function normally anymore.

I will have a test at 13 weeks, but I don't think my brain/body can handle such a long period of time with this level of anxiety/stress. Please give me your opinion! Am I infected?

Thank You.

Worried Fella

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hello Worried Fella,

Now I've gotta wonder just how high risk could this individual be if the handjob and protected intercourse were really "VIRGINAL???"

OK, Worried Fella, listen up. Oral sex carries a low risk for HIV transmission. Handjobs are not considered to carry a significant risk and "protected" sex is indeed protected if a latex condom is used properly and does not fail. Consequently, your overall HIV risk is low at best.

Stop stressing out about symptoms. Symptoms are notoriously unreliable in predicting HIV infection. Don't believe me? Try reading the testimonials in the archives of this forum. That will take you at least 13 weeks and should provide you with considerable reassurance while waiting for your test.

"Virginal" or not, if anxiety and stress continue to be a problem, consider seeking some counseling to help you cope with your fears. What's important to realize how is that all the odds are in your favor.

Good luck.

Dr. Bob

Dr Bob, Personal Question...
has anyone ever written back poz?

  • Email Email
  • Glossary Glossary

 Get Email Notifications When This Forum Updates or Subscribe With RSS



This forum is designed for educational purposes only, and experts are not rendering medical, mental health, legal or other professional advice or services. If you have or suspect you may have a medical, mental health, legal or other problem that requires advice, consult your own caregiver, attorney or other qualified professional.

Experts appearing on this page are independent and are solely responsible for editing and fact-checking their material. Neither nor any advertiser is the publisher or speaker of posted visitors' questions or the experts' material.

Review our complete terms of use and copyright notice.

Powered by ExpertViewpoint