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Let us hear it how YOU do it, Dr. Bob !

Sep 18, 2003

Dr. Bob,

These are not questions to invade your privacy but I think it will be of immense educational value to everyone out there so I would be grateful for an answer.

What safe sex practices do you (being HIV pos) and your partner (who is HIV neg) practice ? Do you engage in any unprotected intercourse ? How often does your partner test ?

Thanks a stack !

Response from Dr. Frascino


You want to know how we "do it?" You really think this would be of "immense educational value?" Do you work for a porno film company or something? I can just see the "educational video" now "Dr. Goodbody and Dr. Feelgood Do It Right."

Do we engage in any unprotected intercourse? Of course not. Sorry to spoil any fantasy you may have had. We "do" what we preach. We know the levels of risk involved with various activities. We decided together what level of risk we are willing to accept and we stick to those decisions. It's called negotiated risk.

Our "negotiated risk" is just that "ours." It really shouldn't influence other couples' decisions. An analogy might be driving in a 50 mile per hour zone. Some folks go 25 miles per hour with both hands on the wheel and undivided attention given to the road. Others go 65 miles per hour while eating a taco, putting on their eye makeup, talking on their cell phone to a 2-dollar-per-minute naughty-nurses sex hotline, steering with their knees in an old beat up car whose breaks don't always work very well. It all comes down to what level of risk you're willing to accept. Could both of the individuals described above make it to the Piggly Wiggly safely? Sure, it's possible, but whom would you rather drive with?

Dr. Bob

Desperate in Sweden

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