HIV positive girlfriend
Sep 1, 2011
Hi, I have an HIV positive girlfriend who discovered her status when her CD4 count was at 44. Before then, we kissed a lot and she had a bad cough at that time. After she told me about her status, I asked her to go for TB tests which came out negative as no fast bascillis detected. But since the day we kissed, my body has always been painful on the chest and burning often in the lungs. My doctor told me that its nothing to worry about but I wonder if this could have been due to the kissing we had?
Response from Mr. Vergel
I think you are worried and terrified that she may infect you. You have two choices: leave her or get educated about HIV so that you do not treat her like she is a source of bugs.
Kissing does not transmit HIV unless you both had some ulceration or sores in your mouth, and even then...saliva may have protective properties.
She will start HIV medications and most probably be healthy again. Unless you get a grip of your fear of kissing her, she will eventually notice your fearful kisses.
I would agree with your doctor that you should not be worrying about this. And always use a condom when having sex, although her chances to infect you will be minimized once her HIV virus is undetectable for a while.
Some cities have support groups for HIV negative partners of HIV positive people. You may want to call the local HIV non profits to find out.
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