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Why am I putting myself and other at risk HIV

Sep 1, 1999



I am having unsafe sex with multiple partners. I am allowing my-self to engage in this behaivor knowing full well that contracting AIDS is possible. My decesed boyfriend had sex with me and had AIDS. I was luckey not to get HIV then!! However I am in the window period and waiting to be retested again. With full knowledge that I may have HIV I am sill putting not only my-self at HIGH RISK but ALSO OTHERS by having unsafe sex while waiting for my results.

I have a lot going for me now. Graduated from Law school, Good job,bright future. I am very smart and know what I am doing is wrong but cant stop. I know I may die. Even worse I know I may give others AIDS. BUT I DONT SEEM TO CARE about my-self or others.

Mentaly I am creating problmes and risks for my-self that I don't need. But more trubling is that I am also creating problems for others I don't know. My-self respect must be low because I am hurtting my-self, Family, Friends and sexual partners.

I KNOW I need to stop not only for my own safty but for the saftey of others. I am seeking proficial help but have not worked through this problem with success.

Please help me to help my-self and to stop spreding aids. People need to know that if your partner says he is negitive NOW, He/she may be in the window priod and may actulay be able to infect you even when he says he is currently negitive.

Why am I putting my self through this problem while I know that I may have aids because I need to be retested

Response from Mr. Shernoff

There are no simple explanations for why you are behaving in the self-destructive ways that you describe. You may be angry that your partner died, and/or you may be acting out a wide variety of other issues or unresolved conflicts from earlier times in your life. I would be a complete charlatan if I tried to give you an analysis of what is causing you to act as you are. I am glad that you have begun professional counseling in ana ttempt to both gain insight into why you are doing the things you do and to try and get help now to stop.

Michael Shernoff, MSW

Newly diagnosed HIV +ve and basket case
Why the paranoia?

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