Erection problem: what to do?
May 6, 2011
Dear Dr Fawcett,
Although it has been a problem all my life, I want to take a measure to fight with it just now.
I am 30 year old male, hiv+ for two years, not on medication, with quite good and stable test results and no other physically exceptional concerns.
Yet, since my very first sex, I have never had a reliable erection. Usually I don't mind, but sometimes I feel limited by this fact. I do not think it is a biological issue, as when alone, masturbating, this is never the case, and I think I get as many erections as any other man. Plus, one month after my relationship with my current husband started, to my surprise I would get really stubborn erections while having sex with him. but still not with others..
Making it clear that this is a psychological problem, I ask you how I should approach finding a solution. Is long therapy necessary for such a issue? Or do Viagra-like drugs also help? Somewhere I heard that they only help people with biological problems.
Thanks in advance
Response from Dr. Fawcett
Erectile dysfunction is common in men living with HIV, and can be caused by low testosterone levels, antiviral medications (especially protease inhibitors), the HIV virus itself, and even depression. I understand this has been a life-long issue and that it does not occur when you masturbate or at times with your partner. This indicates more of a psychological cause rather than a physiological one. Sexual desire is an vital component of arousal, and for that reason erectile dysfunction drugs like Viagra don't necessarily work if the mind is conflicted. That can be due to beliefs about sex, internalized homophobia, shame, or a variety of other issues. A sex therapist would have the necessary training to work with you on these concerns. An international directory can be found at the AASECT website.
If you do chose to use pharmaceutical interventions there are some options. They include not only the "PDE5-inhibitors" (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra) but other drugs such as injectables as well as devices. Speak with your physician about your options, and remember that the blood levels of some of these drugs (such as Viagra) can be significantly increased by protease inhibitors, so dosage adjustment should always be discussed with your physician. Also be sure to remember that Viagra and poppers don't mix - the combination can cause a dangerous drop in blood pressure.
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