Forum on HIV and Mental Health: will my marriage make it??

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		will my marriage make it?? Dec 19, 2006 My husband just told me 3 days ago that he is HIV positive. I went and got tested the next day and I am negative. Sometimes I feel like I should tall him to just leave and get a divorce ASAP. Other times I feel like I should try to work on it. We have 2 beautiful sons ages 2 and 5. I am very upset with him for keeping this from me for six months and he put me at risk. I guess my questions are. Can you REALLY have a marriage if your husband is HIV positive? I do not want to stay in this marriage if I am always going to be scared of being infected. Can we really still be intimate in all ways that make both of us happy? Should I bail out now? I am only 30yrs old and have plenty of life to live. I do not know if i can overcome the deceit and lies he has told just so he would not have to tell me that he was positive. thank you nowhere to turn


		Response from Dr. Horwath The problem that your marriage has is a violation of trust. You need to decide if you can live with this breach of trust. You may need some time and you certainly need to have an opportunity to talk to your husband about this situation. I don't know if he can explain himself or provide you with a reason to stay in the marriage, but you should certainly have an opportunity to talk and try to understand what happened between the two of you.

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