Mt boyfriend recently found out he was postive
Feb 27, 2014
recently my boy friend tested positive after having sex only once. i immediately started using PEP which i have used for now 22 day since i was negative.but i love him so much and don't want to loose him what should i do so as to remain negative. please advise
Response from Dr. Young
Hello and sorry to learn about your BF.
It's entirely possible for you two to live full and sexual lives, without transmission of HIV from him to you.
First, if your boyfriend is engaged in his medical care, and if appropriate, starts on medications to treat his HIV, his health risks should be minimized and furthermore, his risk of transmission to you is dramatically reduced- this is in addition to the use of condoms and lubricant. We call this treatment strategy "treatment as (or is) prevention; TasP".
Second, get HIV tested (as you apparently have, since you're on PEP).
Next, make sure that you learn the optimal ways of safer sex. There are many pages devoted to this subject here at theBody, including this overview. Learn about condoms and lube, their many shapes, sized, flavors etc- this can increase your safety while increasing sensuality too. Last, have a conversation with your care provider about whether pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is appropriate for you. This is a strategy of taking a HIV medication (Truvada) on a daily basis to prevent getting infected.
Hope that helps, and good luck to both of you, BY
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