my 13yr son is asking hard question
Apr 14, 2013
Hello I'm a 38 yr old black female who has been positive since 1999. My 13 yr old son is asking questions about how his father died when he was 2 yrs old. My sons dad knowingly gave me hiv, my son is thankfully negative. I had a kidney transplant in 2012 & have been having some issues. My hiv is controlled w/o meds & I 've been labeled an elite non progressor. My viral load has been undetectable since 99, recently my cell count has dropped drastically because of the antirejection meds I take for my transplanted kidney. My son wants to know how his father died & so far I've been untruthful saying he had a bad heart. My son doesnt know my +status. How should I explain this complicated situation to him w/o him resenting his father or scaring him into thinking I might croak any minute?
Response from Dr. Holodniy
I think you tell him the truth. You want him to be a support to you and your health concerns and understanding the history about his father is a component of that.
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