Hello. I am a 49 year old gay man. A very good friend of mine who is 30 and I discovered we are attracted sexually and started having sex, and enjoying each other's company to the point that recently we started talking about having [safe] sex exclusively with each other, although I usually rimmed him heavily without protection in each ocassion. We both have partners, although both our relationships are platonic at this point. So, we went to get a routine blood test. We both had been negative up to six months ago. I tested positive, he tested negative. I am the top. Because of the sex circumstance with me, they put him in a PEP treatment just in case for a month. I am asimptomatic. We are still discussing being sexually exclusive, but now my positive status throws a different light in what our sexual behavior will be. I was in a state of shock, but I am quickly recovering and realizing I have options, and have an appointment already to evaluate my status, the need of meds, etc. I also am realizing that sex is an important part of my life, and contrary to my reaction of the first day, I will continue enjoying it, only precautions will rule. My friend and I REALLY enjoy each other sexually, we particularly like rimming each other. I know from here and on we should only do it with barrier protections, but I wanted to ask, how risky is it, say if I just give him a couple of... licks? Thanks!

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